April 30, 2017
I. Goal: To grow children into healthy, productive, happy, well-adjusted adults
III. Why Marriage matters to Children – Research says Children coming from divorce:
H.Comments from children of divorce: “My parent left home because of me.” “Why did they divorce?” “When will I stop hurting?” “When will my mom stop hating my dad?” “Why do I have to be the go-between?”
VI. Recognizing and Raising Individuals
A child’s temperament is made up of character traits, tendencies, gifts and abilities that are unique to him. A child can be active or passive, strong-willed or flexible. A parent must be sensitive to their approach in raising their children. We must never compromise proper training and discipline but must always be mindful of the child’s temperament and personality. It’s not a “one size fits all” when bringing children up. We must work with God to shape our kids into unique expressions of God.
V. Why Young People Act Like They Do
A. Peer Pressure – Many kids are pressured to act a certain way or they put on a mask to fit in. The reason they act like this is because they are looking for acceptance, approval, and affection. For young girls, the need for male affection should be appropriately met by her father. Many times if a young girl doesn’t receive affection from her father she will seek to find it in a boyfriend. As a result, the boy misunderstands her thinking that she is looking for something else. Many young girls end up hurt, belittled, and let down as they are taken advantage of.
B. Hormones – The human chemistry in young people is in a state of imbalance for a few years. This can cause agitation, outburst, depression, and many other character traits that seem to make no sense. You may see a lack of self-discipline, risk taking, and goofiness. But, parents be patient, knowing that this is just a phase.
C. Role Models – Every kid is searching and seeking to develop their own individual personality, therefore, they are looking at different people to see who they are and what they are so that they can figure out how to form their own personality. Most of the time they will look to older kids. That is why it is so important for parents to make sure their children are hanging out with people who are living right and doing right, providing a good example and influence in their children’s lives. “Be not deceived, evil communications corrupts good manners.” (I Corinthians 15:33)
Young people remember, whoever you associate with is what you will become. If you want to soar with the eagles, you can’t scratch with the chickens. “You shall make no covenant (agreement) with them, nor with their gods. They shall not dwell in your land, lest they make you sin against me for if you serve their gods, it will surely be a snare (trap) unto you.” (Exodus 23:32-33) Don’t let anyone trap you!
Parents no matter what’s going on around your children or how they may appear to stray, always remember that you are their strongest defense and the ones they are actually watching. What you do and say matters!
Today we are dusting for Satan’s fingerprints. Satan will try to pit mom and dad against each other or one family member against the other.
With his deceitful nature, he bases his lies on half-truths.
Then the devil whispered to David’s men that they should stone him. Think about it. David was called and led by God. David was their ticket to victory and success. David prayed and they pursued and they prevailed. They got their families back plus all the spoil of their enemies. In a moment of tension, mourning their loss, inundated with emotions, listening to others complain, they almost lost it all. But in their willingness to trust King David, to follow the leader, like the Apostle Paul’s crew in crisis stayed with the ship, they not only experienced God’s miracle and prosperity, but also fulfilled their goals and achieved their dreams (I Samuel 30:1-20; Acts 27:10-44, 28:1-10).
The voice of Satan will tell you that God is unfaithful, that God is the source of your problems or that God is going to abandon you. That, my friend, is deception.
God will take your mess and give you a message. He’ll take your test and give you a testimony. God’s transcendent power will take things meant for evil and make them work for our good (Romans 8:28).
Whatever you are walking through right now, just know that God is faithful. He wants to walk with you and maybe even carry you through the hard times. It is important that we stay focused on Him so that we remain in faith and peace. We love you.
Bishop Ricky & Jeannie
“As for me and my house we will serve the Lord.” Joshua 24:15
I. Keys to a Successful Marriage
A. Christ at the Center – Stay spiritual, not carnal!
1. Individually make Jesus Lord of your lives. Now pray, read the Bible, go to church every time the doors are open.
2. Pray together, share spiritual insights and experiences, become comfortable together with Jesus.
3. Establish goals and directions upon the Word of God.
B. Always Build Each Other Up
Never allow criticism, anger and frustration to dominate your communication. Prince Charming can quickly become a frog. “Let all bitterness, wrath, and anger, and clamor, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice and be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake has forgiven you.” Ephesians 4:31
C. Accept Your Complement
Fully accept your marriage partner as your complement. The Lord uses the opposite characteristics in our mates to complement, shape and enlarge us. Men, appreciate your wife’s intelligence and the thoughts she brings to the table as your helpmeet from God. Ladies, appreciate your husband in his creation and in all he does to hold things together. You are one and you complete each other.
D. Willingness to Change
Always be willing to make adjustments in attitudes and habits that offend or hurt your spouse. What’s more important, having things your way all of the time or having a great relationship?
E. Maintain Good Communication
1. Without good communication there will be no companionship or true intimacy. Below we will share barriers to communication and the following enhancement to that particular barrier.
A. Barriers and Enhancements to Communications
i. Exploding – Reactions of anger and frustration. Inability to hear reason or to communicate effectively without inducing fear.
Love should be easy to entreat. Love is patient and kind. Issues should be able to be discussed without fear of reproach.
ii.Withdrawal – You are so sensitive, that anything that is perceived as a threat or attack, you withdraw within yourself and hide your feelings. It’s hard to know exactly what’s going on with you.
Sometimes people who have dealt with a lot of rejection in their lives are super sensitive. Those who are sensitive must seek God for healing and recognize when they are being unreasonable. Those who are not plagued by this, need to use patience, wisdom and nonthreatening tactics when confronting issues.
iii.Verbal Jabs – When hurt, you react quick to inflict pain.
Love is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Instead of making a verbal assault on your partner, why don’t you just try to be honest by saying, “Hey, that really hurt me” or “You really just offended me by what you did.” Get everything on the table.
iv.Silent Treatment – Will not talk in order to work things out. You pout and withdraw instead of trying to pursue resolution.
Love is not rude or self-seeking. It is immature to give someone the Silent Treatment. Seek instead to open lines of communication. Hear them out instead of shutting them out. Value what your partner has to say. If they fear repercussion, chances are you’ll never move to the friendship stage of marriage.
v.Lack of Interest – Will not share common interest. There must be areas you are willing to share with your spouse in order to build your relationship, even if they are not your interest.
“…but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than themselves.” Philippians 2:3. So what if you don’t like to go shopping or maybe you don’t care for fishing, if it’s what your spouse is interested in, try to do it with them sometime. Even though it’s not your idea of a great time, it shows them that you do care about what they enjoy. It says, “Hey, you are important to me!” Maybe you could even develop a hobby or pursue a project that means a lot to both of you.
E. Creating Romance
“Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her and likewise also the wife to the husband.” I Corinthians 7:3
If the man will inject romance, the woman will respond. She needs times of warmth, affection and nonsexual touch, the tender touch, the sense of being desired. Get away alone, as often as you can. Be understanding of circumstances, physical differences and desires. Know that your partner may not be as romantically inclined as often as you. Find your balance.
Ladies, let your mind wander back to when you first fell in love. See him in that light. Know that your husband has some definite physical needs. He’s not possessed, he’s just obsessed with everything about you. You are his highlight. What an honor. Being with you relieves his stress and completes him as a man. This fulfills the oneness of your relationship. Look to your private moments together as exciting, an adventure and not as a duty that you must perform. If he perceives that this is just another job or burden to you, then he may get physically fulfilled but will still be emotionally lacking. He in turn will want you more to ensure that he is fulfilling your needs.
Remember – what it took to get your spouse is what it will take to keep them!
The Year of the Favor of the Lord
The Power to See
I Peter 3:8-13
What do you see?
To see is knowledge – right or wrong, good or bad. Life consists of how we see things. If we see things positively, we release faith and action for good. If we see things negatively, we release faith and action to bring us down.
What we see is what we get. How we see is how we live. Often we don’t see things as they are, we see them as we are. Who are we inside? What kind of person am I on the inside (Matthew 6:22-24). What we see and how we see it controls our life. How we see determines our future, perspective of life, influence, investments, time, talents, gifts, relationships and values.
A) How to have a healthy view of life:
B) The Process of Life:
1) A lot of people hinder themselves by how they see, what they think, what they expect and how they act.
2) What I see is what I believe, what I believe is what I say, what I say is what I do, what I do is what I get in life. I am not telling you to deny reality; I am telling you to change your reality with your attitude. No matter how negative a situation is, if you will see the positive within the negative or the lesson that it has to offer, then your great attitude will turn it around. Even though it may not appear great, it will be great for you because of how you choose to see it. See yourself as having a great marriage, a great family, wonderful job, spiritual growth and finances in order, good health and relationships restored. Your consistent, persistent attitude is the beginning of change in your life.